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Gagging, in the context of fetish and BDSM, refers to the act of using ball gags as a form of restraint or sensory deprivation. A ball gag typically consists of a rubber or silicone ball that is inserted into the mouth, secured in place with a strap. This prevents the wearer from speaking or making coherent sounds while serving as a physical reminder of submission or power exchange.

Gagging can be a popular activity among individuals who enjoy BDSM or have specific fetishes related to power dynamics, dominance, or submission. It can enhance feelings of vulnerability, control, or erotic stimulation for the participants involved. Some people may find the restriction of speech or the physical sensations associated with wearing a gag pleasurable.

It is essential to note that any engagement in BDSM or fetish activities should be consensual and practiced with clear communication and agreed-upon boundaries between all parties involved. Safety, comfort, and continuous consent are crucial factors to consider when engaging in any kind of BDSM or fetish play, including the use of gags.

If you are a regular visitor to the world of bondage and of the BDSM you probably already know what we are about to talk about. If, on the other hand, your highest peak of sadomasochism so far is spanking during doggy style, know that a new world is about to open up before your eyes. Gagging, along with spanking, choking, deep throating and more, is emerging as one of the most beloved Rough Sex practices. Read in the Urban Dictionary, “Sexual act in which male gratification is enhanced by the act of inserting the erect penis down to the woman’s throat.”

But for there to be gagging, there does not necessarily have to be a penis in a mouth: BDSM practices, we know, are very subtle and symbolic, and the master is not necessarily the man. You know the opening scene of Billions, the series airing earlier this year on Showtime? A half-naked Paul Giamatti lies on the ground, tied up, and just with a gag in his mouth (and he also gets a golden shower)…

Le gag o ball gag are special types of gags typically used in BDSM practices to restrict or totally prevent the submissive’s ability to articulate words or phrases, forcing him to keep his mouth open. Ball gags, in particular, consist of a strap (made of cloth, leather or faux leather) to which is secured a ball of varying size, usually made of silicone, that is placed by the master in the mouth of the servant, behind the teeth and above the tongue.

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Choosing to introduce the fetish practice of gagging and the use of ball gags in one’s relationship means making a sharp leap toward a transgression that goes beyond the now-cleared soft bondage practices. The submissive gives up the possibility of influencing through speech the course of erotic play and puts himself almost totally in the hands of his dom. However Gagging is in fact a practice that is not without risk. The presence of the ball in the mouth for a long time, especially if it is large, can lead to dislocation of the jaw or the risk of choking, either due to lack of air or excessive salivation. It is therefore essential, as with all other BDSM practices, that for the use of a ball gag there is consent and trust on the part of both partners, and that an easily recognizable signal is established in place of the safe word impossible to pronounce.

And now that you know what they are and how to use them, have you decided whether to gift your girlfriend or husband with a ball gag to engage in gagging?

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This content discusses the practice of gagging in BDSM and bondage. It explains that gagging can involve inserting a penis into the throat, but it can also involve using ball gags to restrict the ability to speak. The article cautions that gagging carries risks, such as dislocation of the jaw or choking, and emphasizes the importance of consent and trust in such practices. The content ends by asking readers whether they have considered gifting a ball gag to their partner for gagging.

FAQ

What is gagging?

Gagging refers to the practice of using ball gags in the context of fetish and BDSM activities. A ball gag is a device that is typically worn in the mouth, designed to restrict speech and prevent the wearer from vocalizing clearly.

Is gagging a common practice in the BDSM community?

Yes, gagging is a relatively common practice within the BDSM community. It is often viewed as a way to enhance power play dynamics, add a sense of vulnerability, or simply explore sensory deprivation.

Is gagging safe?

Gagging can be safe if practiced with care and consent. It is important to ensure the safety of the person wearing the gag by choosing an appropriate size, material, and firmness. Additionally, regular communication and establishing a safe word or gesture are essential for maintaining consent and addressing any discomfort or distress.

What are some common types of gags used in BDSM play?

Apart from ball gags, other types of gags used in BDSM play can include bit gags (usually made of rubber or silicone), ring gags (which keep the mouth open), inflatable gags, or even improvised gags using scarves or bandanas.

Are there any potential risks or precautions associated with gagging?

While gagging can be a relatively safe activity, there are some risks to be aware of. These may include difficulty breathing, excessive drooling, jaw fatigue or strain, and potential panic or discomfort. It is important to start with smaller gags and gradually increase size, allowing the wearer to adapt comfortably.

Is gagging suitable for beginners?

Gagging may not be suitable for BDSM beginners, as it requires a certain level of trust, communication, and experience. It is essential to have a thorough understanding of the practice, discuss boundaries, and establish a level of comfort within the dynamics of BDSM before delving into gagging.

Can gagging be enjoyable for both partners?

Yes, depending on individual preferences and dynamics, gagging can indeed be enjoyed by both partners. The wearer can experience a heightened sense of submission, while the dominant partner can enjoy the control and power dynamics that the gag provides.

How can I introduce gagging into my sexual activities?

If you are interested in exploring gagging, communication and consent are key. Discuss your desires, boundaries, and expectations openly with your partner. Start slowly, perhaps experimenting with simple hand-over-mouth play or using improvised gags, and gradually progress towards incorporating purpose-built gags if desired.

Mary D. Walters
BDSM Psychologist
With a profound commitment to understanding the deeper intricacies of human sexuality, Mary D. Walters stands as a leading figure in the realm of BDSM psychology. With over two decades of professional experience, she has dedicated her career to aiding individuals in navigating their unique desires, fetishes, and boundaries.